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Lisa Mckay's avatar

Loved this piece, thank you so much for sharing. I wrote about this tendency to call myself a bad mother when my eldest was young and we were parenting in Northern Laos, but came at it from a slightly different angle. Love your take on it. https://lisamckaywriting.com/in-which-i-say-im-a-good-mother/

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dominique's avatar

Well, here's my guilt explained! Thank you for sharing your insights.

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Zuleikha Erbeldinger-Bjork's avatar

In my first years of parenting, I struggled to reconcile how I thought I’d feel about motherhood and how I actually felt about motherhood. I was convinced I’d enjoy it. It was excruciating not to. When I read this line from your newsletter: „A good mom was someone who did all those things, and enjoyed it,“ all of me shouted, „exactly!“ Such a comfort to have this deconstructed. Thank you!

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Donna Freidel's avatar

Always grateful for your insights. I've always felt deficient as a Mom compared to those moms who have no greater happiness than to be there with their kids and whose best moments in life was giving birth.

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Alexandria Faulkenbury's avatar

This book is on my TBR! Loved reading these thoughts and definitely resonated with the guilt of not always being 'fully present' as a mom.

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